Oral sex, also known as “cunnilingus” when performed on females and “fellatio” when performed on males, is not mentioned in the Bible. There are two primary questions asked in regard to oral sex: (1) “is oral sex a sin if done before marriage?” and (2) “is oral sex a sin if done within a marriage?” While the Bible does not specifically address either question, there are definitely biblical principles that apply.
Is oral sex a sin if done before or outside of marriage?
This question is becoming increasingly common as young people are told that “oral sex is not really sex,” and as oral sex is promoted as a safer alternative to sexual intercourse (no risk of pregnancy, less risk of sexually transmitted diseases*). What does the Bible say? Ephesians 5:3 declares, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity . . . because these are improper for God’s holy people.” The biblical definition of immorality is “any form of sexual contact outside of marriage” (1 Corinthians 7:2). According to the Bible, sex is to be reserved for marriage (Hebrews 13:4). Period. So, yes, oral sex is always a sin if done before or outside of marriage.
Is oral sex a sin if done within a marriage?
Many Christian married couples have had this question. The Bible nowhere says what specifically is allowed or disallowed sexually between a husband and wife. Of course, any sexual activity involving another person (swapping, threesomes, etc.) or lust for someone else (pornography) is sinful. Apart from those two restrictions, how can we know if something is sexually permissible between a husband and wife?
Oral sex before marriage is absolutely a sin. It is immoral. It is not a biblically acceptable alternative to sexual intercourse for unmarried couples. Within the confines of marriage, oral sex is free from sin if it is God-honoring, exclusive, loving, other-oriented, unifying, and mutually agreed upon.
*While oral sex is safer than sexual intercourse in regard to sexually transmitted diseases, it is definitely not safe. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV/AIDS, and other STDs can be transmitted through oral sex.